I have to admit: I don’t care about golf.
And by extension, I don’t care about Tiger Woods.
He is, from all accounts, a golf phenom.
He is not, however, a very good apologist.
While this was not the worst public apology I have heard from a celebrity regarding damaging behavior, it is not one which seems to convey a sense of true understanding for what he did to belittle and crush the sacred bond between he and his wife and children.
While I am sure, as is the case with all celebrity mea culpas, Woods had a gaggle of PR agents craft and refine his speech, it still contained parts which attempted to deflect the severity of what he did by including statements construed to elicit sympathy for himself.
This should not have been part of any apology, which should have focused solely on his actions and how they affected his family.
During the speech, he did admit his wrong doing. He did take responsibility for his actions. Many times he at least expressed remorse for the rampant infidelity and selfishness he inflicted upon his wife and children.
But, in between, he chose to interject issues which were selfish and self-serving, used in an attempt to deflect focus on the real issues of which he strictly needed to address.
His touting of his involvement in youth education programs was nothing more than an attempt to try to point out some noble intention of his past, spinning the true plot of this blackened story.
Since he has become famous, he has used the media to project a wholesome, gleaming image of himself, largely contributing to his popularity and financial reward. However, he expressed personal outrage with this same media for “speculation” regarding the events surrounding the night which precipitated his downfall, even scolding them for the speculation about his use of performance-enhancing drugs.
Making this a focus in this speech served only to diminish the intended sincerity of his remorse. None of these issues should have or needed to be stated.
The focus should have been about him, his transgressions, and sorrow for his actions. That’s it.
He spoke of his plans to continue “treatment” for sex addiction.
This is a tough one to believe. Did he never have feelings of sexual desire before his rise to fame? Are we to believe that his sexual appetite did not surface until he was faced with the prospect of attaining most any woman he could desire?
One does not have to label himself a “sex-addict” to explain away this type of sexual promiscuity.
It seems a mere facade to gain sympathy and deflect blame for his personal, purposefully reckless behavior.
He is a billionaire. Fame, fortune and benefits of all types are at his fingertips. Beautiful women undoubtedly make themselves available to him without conditions, and he readily dismissed his familial honor to take full advantage of the rewards which were so abundantly available.
It reeks of just another “-ism” to explain away personal responsibility and self control.
I will say that any type of program where self-refection and introspection, if one gives himself over to those actions, can only lead to a better self-awareness and emotional growth.
Whether he accepts this as a positive, welcome opportunity, or will just use it as a stunt to blunt critisism and help rebuild his public persona, is a decision only he can truly make.
He spoke of following the path of Buddhism and its teachings, claiming he has always attempted to follow the righteous paths contained within the religion, and how it was his deviation away from this which contributed to his failings.
This entire address should have been about how his actions have affected his relationship with his wife and his children.
Any issues pertaining to golf, media treatment, fans, or any other peripheral notions should have been irrelevant.
Make amends, keep it in your pants, and move on, swinger.